As school begins I know that you are all missing your children; especially for the
moms and dads who are really experiencing this separation for the first time. As
a mom who has been through the many phases of parent/child separation, I
assure you it will get easier. Believe me some years are easier than others.
I would like to give you a little bit of what I have learned:
When your child or children return home from school…remember they have had
a really long day and have worked hard. Your children will most likely need a
little snack to get them through until supper (no one likes to be hangry). Let your
child/children decompress from their very busy days before you begin to ask
them how their day was.
Some children can do activities after school every day; however, some children
need a break, please try not to over-schedule their afternoons and weekends.
Take some time and spend it together….Go for a walk, read a book together,
find a craft you want to create together, make supper, bake, write a silly story
or anything else that you love to do together.
Be present, listen to what your child is telling you (Please…….put the phones
down until it is bedtime).
Cuddle up and read a book with your child or 3 or 4!
Go outside and play….the fresh air and sunshine will feel wonderful to
everyone. It may help keep at bay some of the awful germs that your
child/children will be exposed to within the first few months.
Regular schedule: it is really important that you have a consistent schedule for the weekdays and weekends too! The children need to know what their schedule is (post a calendar on the wall or in their rooms somewhere and talk about what will be happening. It is essential to have a regular bedtime and routine. You know your child the best and you know what they can tolerate.
TAKE CARE OF YOU!
SELF-CARE is really imperative to everyone’s mental health. I know…..this is
really hard for all of us, but I promise you will feel better. Go for a walk, go
golfing, take a bubble bath, get a massage, go to the gym, take a class, read an
adult book, have a coffee, tea or water with a friend. It does not have to cost
money – It just needs to be something that you love to do and can’t necessarily
do it with your child (or would like to do it alone for a change).
I hope these little tidbits will help you get through the next couple of weeks.
You can always pop in to see me, I am a great cheerleader and problem solver.
Until next time….